The Third Person

Well before I was married, actually even before my first real boyfriend, a very wise man told me something about his marriage. At first I was surprised. This man was my rabbi and I didn’t quite expect him to utter, “In my marriage there are three people.” We have since become friends. And while I…

Negotiation Everyday

Recently, as I sat in an outside cafe, I overheard a conversation between two women who I gathered to be sisters. They were deciding where to eat lunch before each returned to work. They got into a bit of an argument. At the height of it, one sister snarled, “You don’t really care, you just…

Once again, it all comes down to Sam…

Throughout my career, I have taken training after training in a myriad of subjects, all of which begin with a lesson about ‘active listening.’ This makes sense, as active listening is the foundation on which most of what I do professionally is based. But, I have found these trainings to be quite elementary. To me…